Wednesday, December 31, 2008
don't ask why
BH was extremely sweet last night when he got home from work. He was later than usual, and I announced that the baby would not be getting a behavioral cue from me to assume catastrophy. If he gets the biological, well, I'm sorry. He also gets a biological dose of my wit. But, I am not going to pass down assuming the worst.
Regardless of that comment, BH was extremely sweet, and my first thought is to ask, why were you so sweet. I realize that is not going to come across as very sweet, and it is really irrelevant. So, instead I will say, you were so sweet. I felt very loved. I still feel loved today. And, not to be too new-agey, but I felt so much positive energy flowing from you. I felt very positive, too.
I started reading this book The Way of the Superior Man. I read on DID's facebook that it's one of his favorite books of all time, along with some other Man selfhelp-type books. I looked at them on Amazon, and decided this might help me understand the XY's. (Some women Amazon reviewers and on the jacket said it had been helpful to them.) It is ok, but he repeats himself a LOT. (YES, I do, too, but I am not writing a book, yet.) He uses the word ravish WAY too much. He calls the woman "your woman." That one really bugs me. And, his solution to the "crizaazzy, unpredictable, non-sensical, emotional woman," is simply to have sex with her. Ravish, of course. And he uses this phrase, "push your belly up against hers." This brings to mind an image of a fat, hairy, sweaty belly mushing into this poor, beautiful woman's flat tummy. I don't know why. The good points are he suggests a man (and I would add, everyone) needs to connect with God or Universe or whatever, to determine his Purpose in life, beyond his career, his spouse, his kids. I totally agree, and that is promised in the wedding vows we took. Be you, with God, then be with me, then lets make kids out of our love. And he suggests that if a man is spinning his wheels in career or especially if he is not connected to his purpose, everything else in his life will suffer. I think that taps into an archetypal concept to which I cannot relate, but am beginning to grasp, that a man feels he should be strong and competent for his family. Whereas for a woman, the concept is the nurturer. Off to teach, but more of my book review, later.